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Why it’s OK to feel sorry for Meghan Markle

There are those who have congratulated Markle for her candour, and who have expressed sympathy for a woman who, despite being surrounded by the trappings of wealth and success, still deals with the same issues everybody else does.

In a preview from a new documentary – Harry & Meghan: An African Journey – widely shared on social media over the weekend, viewers saw a vulnerable Markle’s eyes fill with tears as she was asked if it would be fair to say she was not really okay.

“Yes,” the duchess said.

Now, as a former actor, one would expect Markle to be adept at expressing emotions on camera called for by a script.

Any TV star worth their weight can turn it on and off at the drop of a hat.

But it is hard to fake real anguish.

And what we see from Markle in this documentary seems pretty real.

“In all honesty I have said for a long time […] it’s not enough to just survive something, that’s not the point of life,” she says.

“You have got to thrive. You have got to feel happy, and I think I really tried to adopt this British sensibility of a stiff upper lip.

“I tried, I really tried, but I think what that does internally is probably really damaging, and the biggest thing that I know is that I never thought this would be easy but I thought it would be fair, and that is the part that is hard to reconcile but [I] just take each day as it comes.”

Royalty or not, this is a struggling woman, and invoking the ‘one day at a time’ ethos will ring true to anyone suffering from mental health issues.

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle.

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle.Credit:AP

Anyone who has ever had a tough week, a tough month, or a tough year, will understand how hard it can be to make it to tomorrow.

What is puzzling is the fact that even with all the education and awareness surrounding mental health issues, there are still those who just don’t ‘get it’.

What on earth does Meghan Markle have to be upset about?

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She has beauty, riches, fame.

How dare she complain about her station in life when it is one of such privilege and prestige?

Not only is this kind of commentary horrible to read, it is tremendously unhelpful.

Do we really need to remind people that depression and anxiety – and any other mental health issue – do not discriminate?

Apparently we do. Apparently our collective empathy is reserved only for those we deem deserving.

But empathy is not gold or oil; it is never going to run out.

We can feel it for more than one person at a time, and sharing it around does nothing to lessen the sentiment.

It’s baffling that anyone can see a fellow human suffering and, rather than feel for them, choose instead to criticise, to belittle, to trivialise, or to otherwise dismiss their suffering as unworthy of their concern.

Rich or poor, royal or ‘common’, we are all human.

We all deserve help. We all deserve empathy.

Even if you are lucky enough to not be a starving orphan or a victim of a terrible crime.

Even if you are the Duchess of Sussex.

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